|Would You Bet on You? I heard about an interesting idea that gets floated around by people in addiction recovery: We judge other people by their actions, but we only judge ourselves by our intentions. |
Nobody understands your motivation, nobody appreciates how hard you’re trying, nobody has visibility on your dreams or goals or aspirations, and guess what, nobody cares. People care what you do. They care how effectively you do it. They care how efficiently you do it. Beyond that, no one beyond family and close friends want to sit through the behind-the-scenes extra’s that help you explain yourself.
So try this out. Suppose you weren’t “you“, suppose you were someone else, anyone else. You’re looking at “you“, hearing your conversations, reading “your” emails, watching you move through your schedule. day in and day out.
What do you think of the “you” you’re watching? Do you find yourself torn between admitting shortfalls and making excuses? If you didn’t already understand “your” daily intentions and the struggles that come with them, would “you” be the person you call on at the most critical moments? If not, you know what to do. Don’t give yourself a free pass that you wouldn’t give to a random stranger; don’t give yourself the slack you wouldn’t give to the waiter who screwed up your order…all those months ago when restaurants were still a thing.
After all, nobody admires someone who isn’t already doing what they themselves wish they could, so set yourself apart, make yourself one in a million, and people will naturally start treating you less like the million and more than the one. Forge yourself into the rock-solid sure thing that anyone, including you, would put their money on to come through in the clutch. Be someone that anyone in the know would bet on…
…and not just another Average Joe who really and truly “meant well” when they came up short.
|Quote of the Day “Regard your soldiers as your children, and they will follow you into the deepest valleys; look on them as your own beloved sons, and they will stand by you even unto death.”|